Phenomenally Me

A New Years Resolution, to resolve all the issues that have been holding you back; including yourself. Properly placing or accepting the blame: I know that it's a hard pill to swallow. The red one: representing the choice between embracing the sometimes-painful truth of reality.

That’s the one that says, this is your fault and no one else’s. Of course that speaks to the specifics of how you may have ended up where you are in the rabbit hole. There are clearly some cases where it doesn't apply and it's simply not something you could have seen coming or have prevented. I do believe that each trial has a purpose though, whether to prepare you for a new season or to repeat an experience, where you did not quite succeed in the previous lesson. It’s kind of like flunking out of a grade, which requires a repeat of that year until you master the curriculum that’s needed to proceed to the next. So as, in the fundamentals of life…sometimes, those bridges are not always because you have failed at something. It’s because you have succeeded and the next level gets a little bit harder. When you accomplish anything, you should be interested in moving into something greater with that skill set. At least that is how I feel.

When we become stagnant, outside of the necessary ‘being content’ and happy with what we have; we also stunt growth. Moving out of comfort zones is the only way to accomplish new heights. You can’t really ask for an expansion of territory, if you are not willing to move away from the current land and accept a larger parcel. It will be necessary for you to possess the tools and resources needed to manage that larger area. Think of it in terms of owning a quarter of an acre of land. You could cut that grass with ease. You could use a push lawnmower to do so. But if you are requesting acreages upwards of 20, you are going to have to invest in a tractor. You may need a Woodmaxx. You will have to work for that Woodmaxx, because you will need it to manage that land. Managing that much land is something you have never done, but if you want to, you will have to do something to show that you can. That’s why I agree with the expression: You have to be willing to do something you’ve never done, to get something you’ve never had.

On another note: We have all attempted to cross a bridge before, where something/someone we didn't see or know was going pull it from under our feet. However, if you give it some thought, you may discover that even that, is something that could have been prevented by paying attention to the sign that preceded the bridge that said "no crossing." 2016 should be about recognizing our own oversights and negligence and absence of due diligence, in our life; rather than finding something to place it on. That way, we can hone in on those things that really out of our control and find ways to trump ourselves, on the next go round. Correctly file them so that it can be dealt with. Perfect example: If you had an existing problem before anyone or anything else came along in your life, to blame that problem on whatever is current in your life, would definitely be the epitome of your denial.

Our 2016 resolution should be about owning up to the parts we played, in the downstage performance of our lives; where we were front and center to an audience people who've seen everything we've done while on stage.

Phenomenally me; My Sweet 2016, is a book about a lady who would not stop until she discovered ‘the phenomenal.’ Find yourself, embrace yourself, love yourself, embrace change, conquer fears, and look at the man in the mirror. Celebrate your life as it was, in order to move into a birth or rebirth. Accept the challenges and take the thorns with the rose. Laugh out loud, while looking at the answer key up against the answers you chose. Flirt with the idea that GOD has sense of humor. Love the fact that you were chosen for the mission and trust that he will see you through. Prepare your testimony about how you were used, survived and received your inheritance, as well as your trust fund! Happy Birthday!

Phenomenally Me; My Sweet 2016 will be available January 2016.