How do you reinforce a positive influence in your child to do better? My simple, no fuss formula is to recognize my daughters' achievements with rewards. And we do this with great caution. We have been very selective at how we reward her and what deserves a reward to emphasize the importance of why she's being "paid" for a job well done. We're not capable of raising and living with a spoiled brat, so none of that here!

 

Three reward guidelines have been put in place at the very beginning (and we abide by it but yeah, we're occasional pushovers, so it's negotiable on a case-to-case basis) :

 

a) Pre-set reward $$$ limit : We've set $10 (no more, no less) spending budget.

b) Autonomy : Free to choose where she can collect her reward as long as it's within the budget.

c) Earn extra reward: Additional points are given if she gets purple color on her agenda book.

 

This Sunday, she collected her reward for two major awards she got from school that both came with an officially signed-by-the-principal certificates along with the addition of purple colors (indicating exemplary work) on her daily agenda book. She makes us proud! I think that the best rewards we get as parents are when our kids do well in school and grow up to be a zensible individual inside and out. So what effective strategy do you use that encourages your child to be a better person?