You and your husband have been together so long that you know all of each other’s office war stories and he finishes your mommy-tales-of-woe way before the punch lines. But things weren’t always so predictable. Get those heart-fluttering new-love sparks back by dating all over again, advises Patt Hollinger Pickett, PhD, author of The Marriage Whisperer: Tips to Improve Your Relationship Overnight.

If possible, return to the scene of your first date. Re-create the magic by reminiscing about how you smooched under the stars (and re-enacting it) or how he nervously almost spilled his red wine
on your new cashmere sweater. Speaking of clothes, let date night awaken your inner fashionista. Whether it’s that swoon-worthy Michael Kors sheath you’ve been coveting or a pretty lipstick shade, buy something new to wear. You’ll feel hot, your hubby will notice, and you’ll rekindle the excitement of getting dressed for your date with him. And even if you’re both super proud about your kid’s first hockey goal of the season, avoid children chitchat while sharing chateaubriand for two. You’re not parents tonight; you’re two people falling in love all over again.