It’s good that schools schedule parent-teacher conferences–not so good is how short they are. Here, three teachers offer insider advice on how to plan for and make the most of your limited one-on-one time.

Do homework. Write down your questions ahead of time: How does my child interact with others? How’s his participation? What else should I do at home? A teacher should offer this info without you asking, but be ready just in case.
— Julie Lohmeier, fifth-grade teacher, Mission Viejo, CA

Drop defenses. Every teacher will tell you where your child excels, but it’s also her job to share where he needs extra help or is falling behind. Listen, take it all in, and discuss how you can team up to help him.
— Dana Wattenberg, second-grade teacher, New York City

Get focused. Ask the teacher for one thing to focus on with your child each night. Structure is the key! Limiting yourself to one goal per day will be less stressful for both of you.
— April Wescott, school speech pathologist, Queens, NY