They say that what you focus on expands. If you concentrate on what you’re grateful for rather than on what’s troubling you, you tend to be happier. At the top of my gratitude list is my son, Jack. He turned 6 this month, and we treat his birthday parties a bit like the White House treats state dinners (minus the security detail).

There are months of talk about themes, the guest list, goodie bags. As the party gets closer, the excitement grows—almost as fast as his gift wish list. I used to want to make his parties perfect. Now I know that when you bring together kids, games and cake, things usually turn out pretty well.

Also on my gratitude list is my career. My work is meaningful, and that’s a feeling many working moms share, according to our exclusive survey. Find out how we see our shifting roles and also how others view us, including men, working women without kids, stay-at-home moms and managers (“What Moms Think: The Working Mother Report,” ). Our survey found that moms who define their work as a career are happier and more fulfilled in all areas of their lives than moms who see their work as a job. We hear people say, “It’s just a job,” but we never hear them say, “It’s just a career.”

As you sit at your Thanksgiving table this year, take turns naming some things on your gratitude list. Everyone is sure to leave the table feeling not only stuffed but happier.

Suzanne Riss, Editor-in-Chief