In our topsy-techie world, it’s easy to succumb to digital distractions—smartphones, TV, gaming devices—at the table. You may permit them to help the kids (and you) make it through dinner, but “they mean lost opportunities to build strong family bonds,” says parenting expert Jeremy G. Schneider.

What to do instead?

Crank up Coldplay. Music of most any kind in the background helps create a convivial dining ambience. Let family members take turns making selections, helping kids feel engaged and involved at the table. The only rule: The cuts should be a bit calm for dining.

Promote face time. Have everyone share how their day went—the good, the bad and the daunting—and offer encouragement and support. Save big problem-solving or disciplinary issues for non-mealtimes.

Make a topic list. A mental list of talking points aids conversation and helps break through kid silences. Or try conversation-starter cards like Family Talk ($9, amazon.com). By making distraction-free dinnertimes the norm early on, you’ll create a habit of table talk that may help even sullen teens speak up later.