I don't know what possesses people sometimes?  I find it difficult to know what they are thinking?  I know that I am an independent, working mom.  I pay the bills (almost always on time...I am talking to you Mr mortgage harasser), I go to work everyday, I read and do homework with my daughter, and generally keep everything afloat.  So why is it because of this, I am the one who always gets into trouble, the one that gets scolded if something goes wrong?  Oh right, because I am the only one making any decisions, so who else to blame?

This whole rant is due to the fact that I got in trouble this weekend from an in-law ( I will leave them nameless...to protect the innocent, and the guilty).  I was just playing with my daughter, minding my own business, when, POW, 'how is your money manager doing with your 401-K?'.  I knew right then and there I was a goner.  My in-law never agreed with me when I was placing my 401-K pickings in the hands of a money manager I knew, and every once in awhile likes to see if they were correct.  So, there it was, the question lingering in the air like the smell of old shoes.  If I said great, they would ask for further information on the 'great'....detailed information.  That would be hard because I have no idea how its going, I can barely keep track of the nine thousand other things that are going on right now.  If I said I didn't know, I was D-E-A-D.  But I can't tell a lie....well at least not a good one with plausibility.  So I fessed up to not knowing.  And ouch....that's gonna leave a mark.  Oh well....what can you do.  I know they mean well, but it leads to me to try and understand why am I getting the brunt of this train wreck?  Isn't there someone else you could be talking to about this, say someone who is related to you by blood??  Hmmmm...let me think....perhaps my hubby.

And yet again, he dodged this bullet like an invisible man.  I need to learn this ability he has to make himself blend into the wall when the conversation takes a turn south.  Do I need to be the only one harassed because I am picking up more than my share of the household decisions?  Why not blame the hub for not evening knowing we have a 401-K - I am not even sure he knows what that is. So, I am wondering, does the same thing happen to other working moms?  Since we seem to be holding all the balls in the air, are we always the ones whose balls get shot at, and everyone else is left unscathed?  Please comment and let me know.