Four years ago, Working Mother polled our readers to find out how you felt about sex. A vast majority of you told us that, contrary to the tired, sexless stereotype of the bedraggled working mom, sex was important to you, you were having it and you wanted more. Then Fifty Shades of Grey happened. Multi-millions of women have lost themselves in the trilogy that revolves around not just sex but sexual submission, bondage and dominance.

Critics and pundits and psychologists have had their turn deciphering the trend. Some say it’s a reaction to women’s increased power in the workplace, a surrender for moms who must constantly be in control. Some say it’s a throwback to more primitive desires to be loved and protected by someone stronger. Others suggest it’s about women today feeling freer about sex, or at least sexual thinking. We wanted to learn what you think. Sexual fantasies, romantic cravings, emotional needs—in our new survey, you told all. Here are 50 shades of your deepest desires, and what’s really going on in your bedrooms.