Firing or laying off someone is never easy, but it’s tougher when she’s your beloved family caregiver. Whether it’s about cost cutting or the kids aging out of the nanny system, you can make the transition easier.

Give real reasons. Don’t assume your nanny knows why she’s being let go. She may think she’s done something wrong when that’s not the case at all. So be sure to basically tell her the truth—though you needn’t give every nitty-gritty detail.

Offer assistance. Compensate your caregiver fairly by giving her at least two weeks’ pay, especially if she’s been extra good for your kids. If she was a live-in, allow her time to find a place to stay, and help her if you can. Post a job-wanted item for her on listservs you frequent, and write a glowing reference letter for her future search.

Grant goodbyes. Have a family-only meeting and update your kids on what’s happening. The news might be most traumatic for them, so be sure they know the nanny’s leaving isn’t their fault. Offer to Skype calls with the nanny post-transition so the kids can maintain a relationship with her.

Tip: Post on Facebook and tweet that your great former nanny is available for work.

Source: Barbara Kline, president of White House Nannies, a referral service in Bethesda, MD