Recently someone I know blogged about being fullfilled as a parent and how sometimes it is really hard. She shared the fact that she doesn't see many people have discussion around that. I agree with her. We find ourselves in the midst of trying to figure out our best definition  of work/life balance and what it means to us individually.

Our parents weren't perfect with us and chances are we wont be perfect with our kids. I like to think of parenting like getting an education. I returned to college later in my life and went for 7 years while working a fulltime job. Sometimes I would call my best friend in tears about how hard it was. Then one night he said "Kakie, it isn't supposed to be easy all the time. That's why they call it an education. Overcoming the obstacles are what teach us in different ways. That is part of how we grow and learn, through trial and error."  

I think more of us ought to come to terms with the fact that we are all imperfect human beings and we can learn to be okay with that. There is no definition out there of "the perfect mother." That is why our kids often through their actions, teach us to slow down and remember that it is about being present for them. As long as they continue to love us unconditionally, like we love them, then in their eyes we are the best parents in the world. My favorite quote: "We do not remember days, we remember moments" -Cesare Pavese

Often, when I am feeling overwhelmed and do a great job of being my worst critic, I get on my treadmill for 30 minutes (one of few things I feel I have contol over in this life sometimes.) There have been times where I turn to my parenting social networks online for input. I call my sister with three kids and draw from her wisdom and experience. It is helpful to talk through the challenges because others have so many gifts they can teach us. I also turn to daily meditation books that help to keep me grounded.

We need to remind ourselves and our other friends who are parents the following affirmations.

1. We are doing a great job.
   
2. We have all of the tools we need.
   
3. We are never given more than we can handle
   
4. We are not alone in our thought process

How do you stay grounded through the challenges parenting can present?

By Kakie Fitzsimmons, Vice President and Founding Partner, Farmer's Hat Productions. Co-Author of the award winning children's book series, Bur Bur and Friends which educates kids about sports and outdoor exploration.