This past weekend I celebrated my daughter’s birthday. I had started planning for it the end of January, the same time in which I told my soon to be (not soon enough) ex husband about the party plans. His response was, “I don’t think I’m going to make it. I’ll have to let you know.” No explanation why or anything. I left it alone and said nothing further about it. I did what I supposed to do by letting him know all of the plans for the party: the time, location and everything; and requesting his presence. It was totally up to him to take advantage of the opportunity to share in the celebration of his daughter’s birthday. So on her birthday, the actually day of the party, I get a text message from him, “Tell Kenedi Happy Birthday from Daddy #2.” I didn’t even bother to respond, and he didn’t bother to come. The party went on as planned and went smoothly.
Throughout this separation I have been constantly accused of sleeping around with men by my ex; subtle little comments like, “from Daddy #2.” So if he’s Daddy # 2 who is Daddy #1? I refuse to continue to defend my character because I should not have to. I rather let my actions and self-respect speak for itself. I get questioned by inquiring minds as if they are trying to figure out if I’m seeing someone…“Where did you go? Who did you go with? What are you doing? Who are you doing it with?” And the questioning isn’t normal conversation. It’s more like a rapid fire interview, and since I have absolutely nothing to hide I answer all of their questions without hesitation.
Once everything is settled and done with (did I mention how ready I am for this to be over and done with!), yes, eventually I will seriously venture out on the dating scene again. And even if and when I meet someone, I wouldn’t expect him to be Daddy #1 and would have to carefully consider when and if I would introduce another man in my daughter’s life. So for now I’ll continue to stand proud with my dignity and self-respect in tact and focus on being Mommy #1, 2, and 3 to my daughter, because that is a job I would not stand back and relinquish no matter how I feel about my ex and how our relationship ended. It’ll be in his and his daughter’s best interest if he followed my example. That is all.