Today is week 5 since my knee surgery. I went back to the office for a couple of days last week and intend on going every day this week. I will have clients in town for a few days next week and then will travel to see a client at the end of the week. Now, on top of balancing work, kids, husband, I am trying to make sure I get my rehab in and extra Dr's appointments. I took my 9 month old to the Dr for her check up, the Dr talked to me more about how I am doing than my daughter. (Wow - can you believe she is 9 months already?) My family Dr is concerned about how busy my husband's and my life are and how we somehow balance it out. In reality, we just don't have a choice!
The last 5 weeks have been interesting. The major thing I learned is that motherhood is in the details. Others just do NOT think the same way a mother does. Or at least - they do not think the same way I do. I have found I am usually about 5-10 mental steps ahead of everyone to make sure things are being done in the most effective and efficient method. And because of that, I was deemed high maintenance by my husband and nanny. I was told that I give to many requests at the same time. But to me, I was just being logical. I was required to ask for help constantly. So, if I were going to do something, for instance, go downstairs, I would ask *whoever* to go downstairs, please take the dirty glass or bottle and place it in the dishwasher, go get the laundry out of the dryer, put the clothes from the washer to the dryer, put ice in my ice machine for my knee and bring up some water. But apparently - that was too many requests. To me - it is one trip...to them - it was high maintenance.
I also found out that no one *looks* for things like a mother does. Or like I do. "Where is the Tae Kwan Do belt?" No one can find it. Well - Did you look in the closet, all closets? Did you look under the bed? All beds? Did you pick things up and move them to see if it was under there. Did you look in drawers? Bathrooms, etc? And I have no idea how many times I would say "If I get up and find it, what do I get?" Because I would get up, hobble over and find whatever might be lost in a matter of minutes. It was frustrating and exhausting.
I find the same sorts of traits from people from work. They do not think ahead. They do not truly "look" into something to find an alternative solution. Too many people take "NO" for an answer. And too many people don't think about the details of how there is always a domino affect to everything that happens in life.
Houses run smoothly because of mothers. I know I look at Pinterest and see posts from friends on Facebook and see these overachieving mom's. And I wish I could be more like them. But I do what I can. And life did not run as smoothly with me not 100%.