The Mother-Daughter Dynamic

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The Mother-Daughter Dynamic

Posted on November 01, 2011

related tags: Balance Family, Big Family, Multi-Generations

The primary theme of my blog is dealing with my chaotic life. Everyone has different chaos, but part of my chaos (besides my normal household of chaos of husband, child, pets, work, etc.) is dealing with external family dynamics – primarily my family (mom), my in-laws and everyone in-between.

So right now I’m dealing with the mother/daughter dynamic. Normally, my relationship with my mom is pretty good. Right now, it’s a bit strained. Long story short…my mom and my husband exchanged words. There are hurt feelings, on both sides. Prior to this incident, my husband could do no wrong with my mom. And my husband is awesome with mom. So I’m a bit perplexed on how to handle my situation.

But it leads me to my question for you...How have you dealt with conflict involving your loved ones?

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by nkegler on November 02, 2011

Have I dealt with conflict...Yes! How you deal with the conflict depends on the personalities of the people involved. If it's your relative that is involved, you have be involved. That's number one. For your situation, since it's your mom and spouse, it's crucial not to necessarily take sides but, make it known to your mom that he is your husband and that you have to respect him. That sets some boundaries with your mom. Then, you can sit down with both of them and help them come to a resolution. They don't have to agree with each other but, everyone should be respectful of each other. Some people will not agree with this but, I have experience with being left alone to deal with a relative-in-law and the experience was not good. Unless abuse is involved, you should try your hardest to manage family conflicts so that you stay close to each other. There is nothing like the familial bond. Good luck!

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