What is Self-Love?
For me, Self-Love means that I am making my needs a priority in my life.
Society teaches women to put the needs of others in front of ourselves. For years I did that. Work came first. When I married, my husband came first. Then when my daughter was born her needs also came before mine.
I was exhausted since I gave everything I had to those around me. I was clueless that my soul was crying out for attention. Overtime, I lost the essence of who I was as a woman since I was so focused on others.
In hindsight, I realize the signal my soul was giving me at the time. For example, when I had the opportunity to go on a business trip I was thrilled. It gave me a reprieve from the demands of my home life. First item that was always tossed into my suitcase was bath salts.
In my hotel room, I thoroughly enjoyed a nice quiet evening with a hot bath and crawling into bed with a good book. I would be so refreshed the next day because I carved out time for me to indulge in myself. Focusing on my needs for an evening, my soul was fed. I would come back from my business trip refreshed, at least for a few days, until exhaustion started setting in.
Does this resonate with you?
Once divorced, a friend had suggested that I need to take Debbi time to keep my inner soul fed. What I didn’t realize is that by putting the needs of others in front mine, I fell out of love with myself after a while. I was responding to needs of others from a place of obligation versus from a place of love.
I started incorporating steps I needed to do to take care of myself. First was time, I set aside each evening to read a book that I wanted to read. Self-care meant getting a sitter for my daughter to go have dinner with a girlfriend or get a massage. It meant that I started an exercise program to boost my energy level and slim me down.
What happened over time is that as I started making myself a priority in my life. I found myself again and learned to appreciate and love the beautiful woman I am. Once I fell back in love with me, I found that the care I gave my daughter did not exhaust me anymore. I was filled with gratitude and simply was in awe with the blessing I was given to raise an incredible young woman.
What I learned is that if you respond to the true call of self-love, you begin to live a life that gratifies you.