It really does take a village. Balancing roles of mom, wife, home manager and worker bee can push even the most energetic woman over the edge. In order to get it all done (or at least make a good attempt) sometimes you need to ask for help, a favor or for advice…or all three!

Reluctance to ask for someone’s help can be rooted in a misconception that needing help is a weakness. Wrong. Asking for a favor or for advice is a sign of maturity and self confidence. You are saying to the world:

“I know my strengths, I know my gaps, I am confident enough to express my needs and to offer help to others in return” 

Here are simple tips to help you get the support you need and position yourself to return that favor.

Get Out Of Your Own Way 

In a scheduling jam and need a ride home from soccer practice for your son? Identified a great business contact and need an introduction? In both of these scenarios, there is no time for your ego to get in the way. Just reach out!

Chances are high the person you are asking has been, will be, or currently is in a position of need. Show that you are approachable and human. By asking for that favor, you could be starting a mutually beneficial arrangement or long term relationship.

Be Prepared To Reciprocate 

I ask for a lot of favors. Everything from help with transporting my kids, to interview requests, to business advice. I am pleased to say that most people want to help in whatever way they can. Sometimes it’s easy for me to return the favor, as in the case of transportation. Other times I have to do a little work to identify ways I can reciprocate, as in the case of business advice.

Don’t think you have anything of value to offer in return? Think again. I have found there is always a way to reciprocate someone’s generosity even when it seems I have nothing of value to offer in return. In my post “Ask for a favor when all you have to give is a thank you” I explain how I prepare myself to reciprocate when it is not immediately apparent what I have to offer.

Steve Blank’s post “How to get meetings with people too busy to see you” explains that requesting a meeting where both parties exchange information or ideas is far more appealing than requesting a meeting where only one person gives up the goods. The mutual idea exchange is a better use of time and creates an opportunity for further collaboration.

It Really Does Take A Village

My opening statement “It really does take a village” does not apply only to you. Remember that it also applies to the person you are reaching out to.

• Be the initiator of openness and generosity.
• Be your authentic self and ask for help to fill your gaps.
• Be willing and prepared to return the favor.

So go ahead and ask for that favor! Tell me all about your experience and the outcome in the comment section below, tweet me at @hsboggini or email me directly at heather@psdnetwork.com.