Problem: You feel paralyzed by your to-do list, overwhelmed by commitments and exhausted by the work/life-balancing act. And lately you’ve been roaming the office like the undead.

Solution: Learn to say: “no, not this time, can’t, I’m busy, wish I could” and “count me out,” says Michelle DeAngelis, author of Get A Life That Doesn’t Suck. “Change your automatic response from ‘yes’ to ‘no,’” she says. "Working moms in particular give, give, give and need to learn to take time for themselves." Start small by making a list of the people and things that leave you drained. Then determine how you’ll get free. If your overly dramatic girlfriend is leaving you depleted, take some time away from her. Lunch? Wish I could but can’t this month. Overbooked?  Get rid of your to-do list. "Lists tend to become a ball and chain," says DeAngelis. “Instead, put to-dos in a calendar at a specific, realistic time.”  Practice saying no at home, too. Don’t let a spouse or child guilt you into doing something they could do themselves. “Take a moment to evaluate what’s important to the family unit,” then figure out an answer accordingly. Could dad go on the class trip? Could your son find his own socks? If they have no problem saying no, why should you?