"Mommy, I want to sweep," your preschooler insists. You may be tempted to begin a tug-of-war over the broom (because it's so much easier to do it yourself), but wait: You might be brushing past a teachable moment that can start your child on the long and winding road to helping out around the house. Could it be as easy as letting her try simple tasks when she asks? And can chores and playtime even commingle?

The importance of play in a young child's development is well documented, so it seems obvious that after work you should just stop, drop and play with your kid—or does it? "Truth is, quality time also exists in everyday doings, not just in play or scheduled activities," says Janet Frick, PhD, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Georgia in Athens. Making the dinner salad together, washing the dishes, helping your 3-year-old use a broom—these are highly satisfying ways to spend time with your little one, with bonuses attached.

Sure, it may seem easier and faster to do most things yourself. But when your child asks to help, you get the chance to teach her essential life skills and gain a sense of accomplishment in the process. "Children learn about daily life by taking part in ordinary tasks and chores," says Dr. Frick, "so think ahead about ways your preschooler can contribute."Accepting your child's offer to help also makes her feel secure about her place in the family. "Easy jobs like setting the table and helping dust the furniture reinforce for her that home is a place where she belongs and where her bonds with you are strengthened," Dr. Frick says. Plus, letting her do her part now lays the foundation for a routine that may help avoid conflicts later ("If I have to ask you again to clean up your room..."), when you come to expect her help around the house.

This can be a learning experience for you, too. Use your child's eagerness to help as an opportunity to slow down yourself, since tasks undoubtedly take longer when a little one is doing them. And remember to be patient and offer encouragement. Having fun making dinner together? Don't worry if it's on the table a bit later than planned. It'll taste that much better when your preschooler helps stir the pot.  

House Party

Chores with your young child can be cheery when they're simple and age appropriate. Dr. Janet Frick suggests these little-kid faves:

• Cooks' corner Beating eggs with a whisk, sprinkling grated cheese on pizza, mashing potatoes.
• Laundry time Sorting clothes into colors and whites, putting them in the washing machine, matching sock colors when it's time to fold.
• Pet patrol Giving dry food and water, brushing the dog's coat, walking the dog with you—so you all get an extra dose of exercise and quality time.