Q: I'm bored to death at work, but I need the security. How do I know when it's the right time to quit?

A: This might not have to be an all-or-nothing proposition. The least
disruptive shift you can make is to try to redesign your job. Create a
list of pros and cons, tallying what's good and what's not so good
about your current position. You like being able to leave at 4:00 p.m.
to pick up your son at afterschool, but you don't want to look at
another spreadsheet. Brainstorm ways you might swap what's boring for
something more challenging--like trading clients with a colleague or
volunteering for meaningful new projects in (or outside) your
department. Then ask for a meeting with your supervisor, explain that
you're ready for a new challenge and offer up your ideas.
Online courses, networking with a professional group, corporate
coaching and other types of professional development—any of which your
boss may pay for—could reinvigorate your outlook, too.

If a job makeover isn't possible, start plotting a new path. But be
realistic. Finding a new job is a job in itself. It requires a great
deal of energy and time, often six months to a year. Keep in mind,
also, that you don't want to be labeled a job-hopper. In today's
market, it's best to try to stick around for at least three years. If
you really dread going to work each day—plan your escape. Think hard
about what you want to do, and tell your network of trusted colleagues,
friends and fellow parents what you're looking for. Remember, the
neighborhood playground can be just as fertile for networking as the
golf course.

It sounds as if family obligations may prevent you from switching jobs
right now, so look for satisfaction out of the office. Pursue a
meaningful hobby or passion, like taking Pilates or that rustic Italian
cooking class, to get over the doldrums. It's okay to park yourself in
neutral at work—and look forward to lively lunch hours with your book
club. Go ahead and network with them while you're at it!

This Month's Expert: Jan Cannon, PhD, career counselor/coach and author of Now What Do I Do? The Woman's Guide to a New Career

Illustration by Marcin Baranski